Sex and sexuality in Islam
By Abul Kasem
Part 1 of 6
[A word
of caution: This article contains sexually explicit terms and
coarse language that may offend many readers. The author will
not take any responsibility in the event any reader may become
upset reading this essay. My request to them: please do refrain
from reading this essay if you are likely to be offended. You
have been forewarned.]
Introduction
There is more to sex in Islam
than meets the eye. Do you care to know that sex is the biggest
taboo in Islam? It is a topic that is fraught with fear and seldom
discussed by the followers of Islam, except when they are in trouble
or when they go to a foreign/infidel country to ‘enjoy’
women there. Islam pretends as if sexual organs do not exit either
in a male or in a female. A woman is covered from head to toe
just to hide her ‘awra,’ which is the
Islamic vocabulary for the part of body that arouses sexual desire
in a man, or the ‘shame’ of her. Thus, sexual organs
are shameful parts of a body! It is a great insult to a woman
to depict her entire body as shameful. It is also a great insult
to all men. Why? Because, this gives the impression that men are
like beasts that are on the street, just on the lookout there
for women to prowl on for sex. This is completely nonsense. While
living in an infidel country, I have watched millions of kufur
women dressed in very decent as well as not so decent dresses.
However, never have I seen a single man jump on a woman in the
street to copulate with her, despite her mode of dressing being
aphrodisiac or in plain word ‘sexy.’ The Islamic concept
of sex is based on Bedouin Arab culture, that is barbaric and
uncivilized, to say the least, when compared to today’s
world. This is because sex is so a ‘dirty’ word and
it is so ‘severely’ restricted in Islam that as a
inquisitive person I became extremely interested in it and devoured
any written material that dealt with sex in Islam. To my surprise,
I found that so little information is available, although there
are tons and tons of books on Tafseer, ahadith Sharia, fiqh
and the list goes on for all other branches of Islamic studies.
Therefore, I had to write from scratch without much help from
Islamic/other sources. Another big surprise for me was that the
restrictions on sex for men in Islam are just superficial. There
are countless loopholes in Islamic rules, so much so that it is
possible for a Muslim man, whether married or not, to have uninterruptible
supply of sex if he so desires. But he must know the rules of
the game very well, if not, then he may fall into a great torment.
There are many secrets and untold provisions for sex in Islam
that very few Mullahs will tell.
How pleasant a quilt is in winter?
Or a Chinese dish for the test buds? Good poems, songs, arts,
or sculptures immensely please a cultured mind. Did you notice
that very rarely physical and mental pleasures meet in one single
element? Sex, as the climax of this type, always has been one
of the strongest driving forces of mankind, especially men. Handling
of sex by a society reflects its level and maturity. At times
Islamic aspect of human sexuality overlaps with “Status
of Women,” but the two are not the same. Compared
to other social/religious systems of the world, Islam gives sex
and sexual “purity” an extraordinary importance with
inherent contradictions/conflicts so much so that we may safely
say that Islam is over-obsessed, oversensitive and over-apprehensive
about sex.
This essay is an attempt to
expose the hypocrisy, double standard, unfairness, absurdity and
sheer irrationality of Islam when it comes to sex. It also examines
the barbaric rules that Islam inflicts on innocent people for
having a simple sexually satisfying relationship whether one is
married or not that Islam unjustly and illogically construes as
‘haram.’
One must not forget however how crucial sex is in our life. In
the first place, without sex, none of us will be in this world
for sure. Darwinian evolution would have stopped eons ago! So
think about it for a moment.
Let us begin with the first
principle of Islamic sex for men, that is:
Have virgins for fun and frolic
In Islam, keeping the virginity
is the highest asset that a woman could possess. There is no crime/sin
as despicable as that of losing the virginity before a woman is
married. The thought of indulging in pre-marital sex by an adult
woman is absolutely unthinkable in Islam (For men it is a different
story altogether. As we shall see later, it is possible for an
unmarried Muslim man to be engaged in sex with slave-girls/captive/infidel
women but not with free Muslim women). Mind you, premarital sex
is a serious crime that may involve severe punishment for the
offender; one hundred Islamic lashing for the unmarried woman
(or man) and stoning to death for the married woman (or man).
This punishment is hudud, which means that there
is no way the offender can escape the severity of this kind of
barbaric torment. Once the punishment has been passed down, it
must be carried out at any cost. So much for Islamic mercy and
tolerance! If you thought that I am being too critical, then please
be reminded that in Islam, homicide is not such a serious offence
as sex is. That is to say, the punishment for a murder can be
commuted to other sentence like Qias
(retaliation) or Diya
(blood money). Now contrast this if you will, with the laws for
sexual offences. It looks like that taking a life is much simpler
and easier than making love, especially for women, if we go by
the Islamic rules. How barbaric and at the same time myopic view!
Who do you think is the ‘real’
owner of our sexual organs, in particular the sexual organs of
women? No, it is not we, the humankinds. It is Islam. Believe
it or not, Islam owns the sexual organs of every Muslim man and
woman in this universe, all of it, including even the pubic hairs
that grow there! Here is what the ahadith say about how to manage
a woman’s pubic hair.
Wife must shave pubic hair if
husband returns home at night after a long journey...7.62.173
Sahih
Bukhari:Volume 7, Book 62, Number 173:
Narrated
Jabir bin 'Abdullah:
The
Prophet said, "If you enter (your town) at night (after coming
from a journey), do not enter upon your family till the woman
whose husband was absent (from the house) shaves her pubic hair
and the woman with unkempt hair, combs her hair" Allah's
Apostle further said, "(O Jabir!) Seek to have offspring,
seek to have offspring!"
Five practices of fitra 1. Circumcision;
2. Shaving pubic region; 3. Clipping nails 4. Cutting mustache
short; 5. Removal of arm pit hair...7.72.777
Sahih
Bukhari: Volume 7, Book 72, Number 777:
Narrated
Abu Huraira:
Allah's
Apostle said, "Five practices are characteristics of the
Fitra: circumcision, shaving the pubic region, clipping the nails
and cutting the moustaches short."
One may wonder why Allah is
so free to look into what a human possess between his/her two
thighs. We always thought Allah has more important affairs to
attend to!
If you ever thought that Allah
gave you the sexual organ for your use as per your desire, then
perish that thought. From birth to death, from adulthood to old
age, from house to desert, every aspect of the use of your very
own private part is controlled by innumerable, mindless, cruel
and oftentimes utterly despicable Islamic rules as written in
the Sha’ria,
the so-called divine laws of Allah. One may legitimately ask why
Sha’ria does
not control the use of sexual organs of animals like cows, goats,
horses, pigs, lions, tigers, birds, snakes, turtles and all other
species that engage in copulation for fun and/or reproduction.
It looks as if the animals have much more freedom on sexual activities
than the human beings—the best creation of Allah! Please
give a serious thought on this and you cannot but be amazed by
the downright infringement by Islam on the very basic right of
a human being which is his/her privacy. The extreme barbarism
in Islam to control the innate, natural and instinctive sexual
desire and its joy is particularly aimed at keeping the virginity
of women intact at all cost even going to the extreme of execution
of a woman who dare to express her sexual desire in an un-Islamic
(read pre-marital or otherwise) way.
One may wonder why Islam is
so utterly obsessed with the virginity of women. I often thought
about this after I came to the infidel land. In this land of ‘sinners’
and ‘prostitutes’ and ‘sluts,’ sex between
consenting adults is not viewed as a crime, although application
of physical force for carnal gratification may constitute a serious
act of violence, which may carry prison sentence. In an Islamic
paradise, on the other hand, sex between two opposite partners
(or same sex partners) is absolutely haram whether consensual
or not. More importantly, sexual gratification by a woman outside
the bond of marriage is completely forbidden. Many Muslims who
come to live in a western society will have great difficulty in
understanding the values and ethos upon which their (the so called
infidel west) concept of sexuality of men and women are based
upon. To these Muslim men, most women who indulge in sex before
their marriage are prostitutes, harlots, and whores and are available
for an easy lay. That is why a lot of devout Muslim men have a
hard time to have easy and professional relations with the western/infidel
women they meet. For a Muslim man, a non-virgin woman is totally
unthinkable for his consideration of marriage. These infidel women
are for having a good time and for ‘one-night stand’
only. According to Islam, an unmarried woman must keep her sexual
and reproductive organ in complete lock under any and all circumstances
till she gets married. I gave a deep pondering over this issue
of blatant deprivation of sexual joy in the name of Allah and
religion. Then, while examining the Sahi Bukhari and Sahi Muslim,
the most authentic of all ahadith, I came across with the following
gems of ahadith.
I found the reason why Allah is so paranoid on keeping intact
the virginity of women at all times before marriage. Let us read
these ahadith.
Sahih
Bukhari Volume 7, Book 62, Number 16:
Narrated
Jabir bin Abdullah:
While
we were returning from a Ghazwa (Holy Battle) with the Prophet,
I started driving my camel fast, as it was a lazy camel A rider
came behind me and pricked my camel with a spear he had with him,
and then my camel started running as fast as the best camel you
may see. Behold! The rider was the Prophet himself. He said, 'What
makes you in such a hurry?" I replied, I am newly married
" He said, "Did you marry a virgin or a matron? I replied,
"A matron." He said, "Why didn't you marry a young
girl so that you may play with her and she with you?" When
we were about to enter (Medina), the Prophet said, "Wait
so that you may enter (Medina) at night so that the lady of unkempt
hair may comb her hair and the one whose husband has been absent
may shave her pubic region.
Sahih
Bukhari Volume 3, Book 38, Number 504:
Narrated
Jabir bin 'Abdullah:
I was accompanying the Prophet on a journey and was riding a slow
camel that was lagging behind the others. [...] When we approached
Medina, I started going (towards my house). The Prophet said,
"Where are you going?" I said, "I have married
a widow." He said, "Why have you not married a virgin
to fondle with each other?"[...]
Sahih
Muslim Book 008, Number 3459:
Jabir
b. 'Abdullah (Allah be pleased with them) reported: I married
a woman, whereupon Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) said
to me: Have you married? I said: Yes. He said: Is it a virgin
or a previously married one (widow or divorced)? I said: With
a previously married one, whereupon he said: Where had you been
(away) from the amusements of virgins? Shu'ba said: I made a mention
of it to 'Amr b. Dinar and he said: I too heard from Jabir making
mention of that (that Allah's Apostle) said: Why didn't you marry
a girl, so that you might sport with her and she might sport with
you?
Please read those three ahadith once again. What
picture do we get of a husband who is gracious enough in marrying
a widow? Now contrast this with the recommendation of Muhammad
(pbuh), the Prophet of Islam. What picture do we get of a husband
who is obsessed in marrying a virgin possibly a very young virgin
for that matter? Yes, it is the picture of a husband who is a
molester, a sexual molester per se, if we say it bluntly. Remember,
this is the recommendation from the messenger of Allah, who, himself
had only one virgin girl in his harem. He must have found it exceedingly
fun to be married with a very young virgin girl. This kind of
child/female/sexual molestation must have the seal of approval
of Allah, the almighty. Can this pleasure of sexual molestation
be the real reason for Allah’s absolute obsession with the
virginity of young women? Can it be that Allah, Himself loves
to fondle the virgins, since we read in the Quran that He has
an abundant supply of virgin houris for His followers
of Islam? Here are a few samples of verses from the holy Qur’an
to demonstrate Allah’s total fascination with the virginity
of women.
044.051 As to the Righteous (they will be) in a position of
Security,
044.052 Among Gardens
and Springs;
044.053 Dressed
in fine silk and in rich brocade, they will face each other;
044.054 So; and
We shall join them to fair women with beautiful, big, and lustrous
eyes.
055.056 In them will be (Maidens), chaste, restraining their
glances, whom no man or Jinn before them has touched;-
055.057 Then which
of the favours of your Lord will ye deny?-
055.058 Like unto
Rubies and coral.
055.072 Companions restrained (as to their glances), in (goodly)
pavilions;-
055.073 Then which
of the favours of your Lord will ye deny?-
055.074 Whom no
man or Jinn before them has touched;-
055.075 Then which
of the favours of your Lord will ye deny?-
056.035: We have created (their Companions) of special creation.
056.036 And made
them virgin - pure (and undefiled), -
056.037 Beloved
(by nature), equal in age,-
056.038 For the
Companions of the Right Hand.
078.031 Verily for the Righteous there will be a fulfilment
of (the heart's) desires;
078.032 Gardens
enclosed, and grapevines;
078.033 And voluptuous
women of equal age;
078.034 And a cup
full (to the brim).
Now you know why one must marry
a virgin and a very young woman, for that matter. Yes, it is for
fun and pleasure, similar to the enjoyment that Allah enjoys and
has reserved for the ‘true’ believers in His paradise.
One-night stand
Who needs sex in a hurry but
does not want to go through the elaborate ritual of marriage and
the payment of expensive dower? Of course, many people would love
to have this kind of quickie sex without much obligations. No
wonder that there are so many women engaged in the world’s
oldest profession just to meet this demand from depraved men.
In modern parlance, we call it ‘one-night’ stand.
Believe it or not, Islam has its equivalence too!
The Islamic counterpart of one-night
stand is known as the M’uta
marriage. In this kind of contract marriage, a man simply contracts
a woman to sleep with him for a brief period only. Although the
Sunnis have banned the M'uta system, it is very
much in practice among the Shiites.
It is quite possible to have a M'uta
marriage every night and kick the woman out next morning. There
is no need of divorce in a M'uta
marriage. This type of marriage is a contract to sleep together
and that is all. Also, remember that though there is a restriction
of up to four permanent wives at any time, there is no such restriction
on the number of temporary wives that one can have at any given
moment. In modern language, we call this 'one night stand'. M’uta marriage has
absolutely no time limit either. So, "one-night's play"
is perfectly Islamic. With M’uta system, it is
possible to have unlimited, non-stop sex round the clock. It is
stated that Imam Hasan, the grandson of Muhammad (pbuh) collected
up to three hundred sex partners (the Islamic terminology is temporary
wives) besides his regular wives, to have one-night stand with
them. Imam Hasan was definitely an Islamic 'Playboy' of his time.
No doubt about it! See, how clever of Islam to have solution even
for the playboys of their Ummah.
Here I am quoting from a Sahi
hadis to show how one can
have concubines for one-night stand
Sahih
Muslim Book 008, Number 3253:
Rabi'
b. Sabra reported that his father went on an expedition with Allah's
Messenger (may peace be upon him) during the Victory of Mecca,
and we stayed there for fifteen days (i. e. for thirteen full
days and a day and a night), and Allah's Messenger (may peace
be upon him) permitted us to contract temporary marriage with
women. So I and another person of my tribe went out, and I was
more handsome than he, whereas he was almost ugly. Each one of
us had a cloaks, My cloak was worn out, whereas the cloak of my
cousin was quite new. As we reached the lower or the upper side
of Mecca, we came across a young woman like a young smart long-necked
she-camel. We said: Is it possible that one of us may contract
temporary marriage with you? She said: What will you give me as
a dower? Each one of us spread his cloak. She began to cast a
glance on both the persons. My companion also looked at her when
she was casting a glance at her side and he said: This cloak of
his is worn out, whereas my cloak is quite new. She, however,
said twice or thrice: There is no harm in (accepting) this cloak
(the old one). So I contracted temporary marriage with her, and
I did not come out (of this) until Allah's Messenger (may peace
be upon him) declared it forbidden.
Mu’tah
means enjoyment---(ref.6, p. 424)
MU’TAH.
Lit. “Usufruct, enjoyment.” A marriage contracted
for a limited period, for a certain sum of money. Such marriages
are still legal amongst the Shi’ahs, and exist in Persia
(Malcom’s Persia vol.II.p. 591) to the present day, but
they are said to be unlawful by the Sunnis. They were permitted
by the Arabian Prophet at Autas, and are undoubtedly the greatest
stain upon the moral legislation but the Sunnis say that he afterwards
prohibited a mu’tah marriage at
Khaibar (Vide Mishkat, book xii. Ch iv.
Pt2.).
Sexual perversion/fetish
What should you do when you
see a sexy, voluptuous woman with her pulchritudinous figure and
your sexual desire is aroused intensely? The Islamic solution
is to hurry home to your wife and have intercourse with her immediately.
In these days of easy availability of pornographic/adult materials
and fetish objects, I wonder how many times one may have to run
to one’s wife/s after watching a ‘stag film’
or reading a ‘smut’ magazine. Here is the hadis
that tells us the story.
Sahih
Muslim Book 008, Number 3240:
Jabir
reported that Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) saw a
woman, and so he came to his wife, Zainab, as she was tanning
a leather and had sexual intercourse with her. He then went to
his Companions and told them: The woman advances and retires in
the shape of a devil, so when one of you sees a woman, he should
come to his wife, for that will repel what he feels in his heart.
Oh, those obligatory Ghusls
If a man is so much obsessed
with the desire of sexual gratification, then he must clean himself
by bath, the Islamic method of cleaning oneself after sexual defilement.
Imagine how many times you may have to do that if you are influenced
by fetish and hurry to your wife/s to have the ‘circumcised
parts’ touch each other? Here is the Islamic rule on cleansing
oneself after a sexual union.
Sahih
Muslim Book 3, Number 0684:
Abu
Musa reported: There cropped up a difference of opinion between
a group of Muhajirs (Emigrants and a group of Ansar (Helpers)
(and the point of dispute was) that the Ansar said: The bath (because
of sexual intercourse) becomes obligatory only-when the semen
spurts out or ejaculates. But the Muhajirs said: When a man has
sexual intercourse (with the woman), a bath becomes obligatory
(no matter whether or not there is seminal emission or ejaculation).
Abu Musa said: Well, I satisfy you on this (issue). He (Abu Musa,
the narrator) said: I got up (and went) to 'A'isha and sought
her permission and it was granted, and I said to her: 0 Mother,
or Mother of the Faithful, I want to ask you about a matter on
which I feel shy. She said : Don't feel shy of asking me about
a thing which you can ask your mother, who gave you birth, for
I am too your mother. Upon this I said: What makes a bath obligatory
for a person ? She replied: You have come across one well informed!
The Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) said: When anyone
sits amidst four parts (of the woman) and the circumcised parts
touch each other a bath becomes obligatory.
When he reaches the climax but
she doesn’t (or vice versa)
Here is the Islamic solution
for unfulfilled or incomplete sexual pleasure. Please amuse yourself
reading these two ahadith if you have experienced
this bedroom problem.
Sahih
Muslim Book 3, Number 0677:
Ubayy
Ibn Ka'b reported: I asked the Messenger of Allah (may peace be
upon him) about a man who has sexual intercourse with his wife,
but leaves her before orgasm. Upon this he (the Holy Prophet)
said: He should wash the secretion of his wife, and then perform
ablution and offer prayer.
Sahih
Muslim Book 3, Number 0680:
Zaid
b. Khalid al-Jubani reported that he askad Uthman b. 'Affan: What
is your opinion about the man who has sexual intercourse with
his wife, but does not experience orgasm? Uthman said: He should
perform ablution as he does for prayer, and wash his organ. 'Uthmin
also said : I have heard it from the Messenger of Allah (may peace
be upon him).
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Sex and sexuality in Islam
Part 2 of 6
Go
ahead and enjoy a female body
In Islam, sex
means the enjoyment of a female body. The notion that sex could
be an exceedingly joyful experience for both male and female is
sadly lacking in the Islamic concept of it. It is the man who
is the actor and the decision maker in this matter and not both
the partners. A woman does not actively take part or act in sexual
copulation. She is merely a passive receiver of male action, simply
an instrument for providing carnal pleasure to the man. At least,
this is what I understood after doing a comprehensive research
of the foundations of Islamic laws, that is Qur’an and ahadith.
The
method of securing such sexual/physical pleasure, as per Islam,
is very similar to a commercial/business transaction. In Islam,
a woman has no right to get married on her own accord if she has
a guardian. In all cases of marriage and sex she is treated merely
as a sexual object, much like the provider of a service for which
she must be paid some compensation. In Islamic parlance, this
compensation for sexual service is known as mahr
or dower. All Muslim men must agree to pay an amount
of money before marrying a woman. This payment can be immediate
or it can be deferred to a future date. Now you know what a mahr
is. No Islamic marriage
is valid without the agreement for a dower. In reality, however,
this dower is nothing but the payment for the possession of a
female body for sexual gratification by the male. It is a very
blunt statement, I have made, you may think. To check the veracity
of such a direct and outrageous statement, please open any Sha’ria book, such
as reference 8. Here is an excerpt from this authentic Sha’ria
(the divine law of Allah) book.
Ownership of a
woman’s body to do as he likes including beating
m5.4
(ref: 8, p.526) husbands rights
A
husband possesses full right to enjoy his wife’s person
(A: from the top of her head to the bottoms of her feet, though
anal intercourse (dis: p75.20) is absolutely unlawful) in what
does not physically harm her.
He
is entitled to take her with him when he travels.
Let us also look
into a book of Islamic jurisprudence that was used
(during the British Raj in India)
as a textbook for Hanafi
laws at Inns of Law (London).
It is the book, (reference 11) which even the Sha’ria
lawyers consult regularly in the interpretation of Islamic laws.
In page 44 of this book, it is written:
Full dower is the payment for
the delivery of woman’s person, Booza, meaning Genitalia
arvum Mulieris.
The wife entitled to her whole dower upon the consummation
of the marriage or the death of the husband.—If a person specify a
dower of ten or more Dirms, and should afterwards consummate his
marriage, or be removed by death, his wife, in either case, has
a claim to the whole of the dower specified, because, by consummation,
the delivery of the return for the dower, namely the Booza, or
woman’s person,* is established, and therein
is confirmed the right to the consideration, namely, the dower;
and, on the other hand, by the decease of the husband the marriage
is rendered complete by its completion, and consequently is so
with respect to all its effects.
(*
Literally, Genitale arvum Mulieris)
Yes,
you read it correctly. The meaning of Genitalia arvum Mulieris
is woman’s vagina. The above few sentences clearly meant
that a woman sells her vagina in return for the mahr.
It is a commercial transaction. Make no mistake about it! Period.
This
is the real meaning of sex in Islam; that is, a man buys a woman’s
sex organ for enjoyment through the payment of mahr,
which is the Islamic dower. Whether a woman really enjoys this
kind of ‘forced’ sex is completely irrelevant in Islamic
concept of sex. A man’s orgasm becomes absolutely a necessity
when a woman is contracted in marriage through the payment of
Islamic mahr (or
its deferment to a future date).
If
you thought that I am exaggerating too much and speaking ‘out
of context’ then there is more surprise for you. In the
same book it is written that the possession of object of contract
is the actual coitus or enjoyment and the right to dower is not
confirmed without enjoyment. Enjoyment of what? Please read the full text for the answer.
Case of Khalwat-SAHEEH OR RETIREMENT.—IF a man retire with his
wife, and there be no legal or natural obstruction to the commission
of the carnal act, and he afterwards divorce her, the whole dower
in this case goes to her.—Shafei maintains that she is here
to receive no more than her half dower, because the husband cannot
obtain possession of the object of the contract but by actual
coition; and the right to the dower is not corroborated and confirmed
without enjoyment.—The argument of our doctors is, that
the woman has completed her part of the contract, by delivering
up her person, and by removing all obstructions, which is the
extent of her ability; her right to the recompense is therefore
confirmed and corroborated; in the same manner as in a case of
sale, where, if the seller have offered delivery of the goods
sold, and there be nothing
to obstruct seisin on the part of the purchaser, and the
latter neglect to make seisin he is considered as having made
seisin, and the purchase is afterwards as a trust in the hands
of the seller, and the whole of the price is obligatory upon the
purchase (ref: 11, pp. 45-46)
It
is rather interesting to note that, in the legal procedure to
obtain sexual gratification by a man, a woman (a wife or a slave-girl
or a captive woman) is merely a servant whose job is only to satisfy
her husband sexually. What? This can never be true you might say.
In Islam, we can only find the ‘golden’ treatment
of women, you contend. Perish the thought. Here is what is written
in the same Islamic law book as the actual legal status of a female
sex partner in Islam.
Woman
is servant and the husband is the person served (ibid, p.47)
Case of marriage on a condition of service from the husband.— ……………it
is not lawful that a woman should be in a situation to exact the
service of her husband who is a freeman, as this would amount
to a reversal of their appointed stations, for one of the requisites of marriage is, that the
woman be as a servant, and the man as the person served; but
if the service of a husband to wife were to constitute her dower,
it would follow that the husband is the servant and the wife as
the served: and this being a violation of the requisites of marriage,
is therefore illegal; but it is otherwise with the service stipulated
to be performed by another free person, with that person’s
consent, as this offers no violence to the requisites of the contract;
and so also in the case of service of a slave, because the service
performed by a slave to his wife is, in fact, performed to his
master, by whose consent it is that he undertakes it; and the
same with the case of tending flocks, because this is a service
of a permanent nature, and admitted to be performed for wives,
and therefore, does not violate the requisites of marriage; for
the service of the husband to his wife, as a dower, is prohibited
only as it may be degrading to the former; but the tending of
flocks is not a degrading office.
That’s
right, folks! You got it correct. Sex in Islam is really a ‘master
and servant’ relationship, a relationship to enjoy a female
person that a man has bought with ‘mahr.’
If one still insists
that the above Sha’ria
rules are not reliable, then one must read the following ahadith
that clearly show that a man must pay a woman to have sexual intercourse
with her. Islamists often talk of the ‘prostitution’
and the sexual promiscuity in un-Islamic societies. I wonder what
they have to say about the following hadith. Kindly note that
in this hadith the reason for the
payment of the dower money is clearly stated, without any confusion.
Yes, a woman is paid for having sex with her. This is the Islamic
rule. Full stop.
Besides,
please note how a woman is treated for sexual purposes.
Sunaan
Abu Dawud: Book 11, Number 2078:
Narrated
Aisha, Ummul Mu’minin:
The
Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him) said: The marriage of a woman
who marries without the consent of her guardians is void. (He
said these words) three times. If there is cohabitation, she gets
her dower for the intercourse her husband has had. If there is
a dispute, the sultan (man in authority) is the guardian of one
who has none.
Sunaan
Abu Dawud: Book 11, Number 2044:
Narrated
Abdullah ibn Abbas:
A
man came to the Prophet (peace_be_upon_him), and said: My wife
does not prevent the hand of a man who touches her. He said: Divorce
her. He then said: I am afraid my inner self may covet her. He
said: Then enjoy her.
After
going through those references, we can now have a clear notion
on what sex means in Islam. The idea that sex is a supreme physical
satisfaction for both male and female is absent in Islam.
Sex is viewed only from a man’s angle and it is actually
considered as a service or a commodity. A man pays a woman to
derive this service or to get benefit from the commodity (a woman’s
genitalis.) It is like a business contract, in which a woman delivers
her vagina and her reproductive organs in exchange for a lump
sum (mahr) and for
the subsequent maintenance (nafaqah)
of her sexual organs
The
holy Qur’an exhorts women to maintain their chastity at
any cost and to stay at home at all times, unless it is an emergency.
Did you ever think about the main reason/s for this ‘home’
imprisonment of women? If you ask any Islamist, he/she will, of course,
give you many ‘good’ reasons, including prevention
of rape, molestation, adultery and….blah, blah, blah.
Please do ignore those explanations from the Islamic apologists.
The real reason is actually sex. The women are asked to stay at
home to provide sexual services to their men (either her husband,
her master or her captor) at any time at his beck and call. Do
you not believe this? Here is what the Islamic law says:
The
woman’s stay at home is solely for sex (ref.11, p.54)
On
the other hand the husband has no power to restrain his wife from
going on a journey, or from going abroad, or visiting her friends,
until such time as shall have discharged the whole of the Mihr
Moajil, or prompt dower, because a husband’s right to confine
his wife at home is solely for the sake of securing to himself
the enjoyment of her person, and his right to such enjoyment does
not exist until after the payment of the return for it.
Here
are more surprises for the reader:
The following is Muhammad’s teaching, as given in
the Traditions (see Mishkat, Arabic edition;
Babu’n-Nikah):- (ref.
6, p.671)
“When a man calls his wife, she must come, although
she be at an oven.”
The
greatest of all Islamic scholars, Imam Ghazali writes in his book
Ihya Uloom al Din (ref. 7, p.235):
“……..She
should prefer her husband before herself, and before all her relatives,
she should keep herself clean at all times for her husband to
enjoy her whenever he wishes……..”
This
is the real meaning of sex in Islam; it is primarily concerned
with the sexual satisfaction (read as male orgasm) of men. Women
are simply sexual ‘machines’ that must always be in
perfect running condition for its ‘master’ to ride
on. The sensitivity of a woman and her desire and expectations
have very little relevance in a ‘world’ where the
only sexual pleasure that matters most is the orgasm of men! To
me, this is also a great insult to all men. Men are simply portrayed
as sex ‘maniacs’ who need to copulate every now and
then! This, notion of male sexuality, of course, is utterly rubbish. The end result is always
pregnancy and guess who suffers for the folly of Islamic men.
What
happens if a woman refuses to have sex with her husband when the
husband has provided the maintenance? It may sound completely
unbelievable, but the Islamic law actually permits a husband to
apply force to have sex with her. Shall we call this rape a la
Islamic style?
Here is what HEDAYA (ref. 11, p. 141) writes:
One
can enjoy a wife by force
But not if she be refractory.—If a wife be disobedient
or refractory and go abroad without her husband’s consent,
she is not entitled to any support from him, until she return
and make submission, because the rejection of the matrimonial
restraint in this instance originates with her; but when she returns
home, she is then subject to it, for which reason she again becomes
entitled to her support as before. It is otherwise where a woman,
residing in the house of her husband, refuses to admit him to
the conjugal embrace, as she is entitled to maintenance, notwithstanding
her opposition, because being then in his power, he may, if he
please, enjoys her by force
I
shall end this section with a simple comment. A marriageable woman
in Islam is simply an object of pleasure to a man (either husband
or her master or her captor.) Islam totally disregards the sexual
sensitivity of a woman; her wants, desires; preferences and passions.
It is a man’s world when it comes to sex in Islam. Men are
created to enjoy sex and the women are simply the suppliers of
this pleasure. We often find the Islamists vehemently criticising
the unbridled freedom of women on sex matters in the secularist/western
societies. To these Islamists, it is a completely rotten, decadent
and filthy culture. What a double standard, preached by these
Islamic apologists, come to think of it!
I would like to hear from those Islamists as to what they
have to say regarding those legal Islamic provisions quoted above.
Sex with pregnant women
What
happens if someone marries a woman and finds her to be already
pregnant? It is a very tricky situation, no doubt. In modern societies
we hardly come across with this kind of practice. Maybe, during
the time of Muhammad, it was not uncommon for the uncultured Beduin
Arabs to come across with this situation. The idea of having sex
with a pregnant woman is rather disturbing and most men will,
perhaps, go for the dissolution of the marriage and will look
for an amicable settlement. However, in Islam, the story is different;
because the man has already paid (or agreed to pay) the price
for the sexual organ of the woman, enjoying her sexually becomes
absolutely halal (or a must) for him. What happens to
the woman? The woman receives Islamic lashing for having sex outside
marriage. Imagine the woman whom you have enjoyed just a while
ago is being flogged; one- hundred lashes after the sexual act
is over! What happens to the child? The child becomes your slave!
This is Islamic justice, pure and simple. Here are two ahadith that deal with this
bizarre case.
Sunaan
Abu Dawud: Book 11, Number 2126:
Narrated
Basrah:
A
man from the Ansar called Basrah said: I married a virgin woman
in her veil. When I entered upon her, I found her pregnant. (I
mentioned this to the Prophet). The Prophet (peace_be_upon_him)
said: She will get the dower, for you made her vagina lawful for
you. The child will be your slave. When she has begotten (a child),
flog her (according to the version of al-Hasan). The version of
Ibn AbusSari has: You people, flog her, or said: inflict hard
punishment on him.
Sunaan
Abu Dawud: Book 11, Number 2153:
Narrated
Ruwayfi' ibn Thabit al-Ansari:
Should
I tell you what I heard the Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him)
say on the day of Hunayn: It is not lawful for a man who believes
in Allah and the last day to water what another has sown with
his water (meaning intercourse with women who are pregnant); it
is not lawful for a man who believes in Allah and the Last Day
to have intercourse with a captive woman till she is free from
a menstrual course; and it is not lawful for a man who believes
in Allah and the Last Day to sell spoil till it is divided.
How about having sex with menstruating
women?
The
following hadis
tells about the time of Bibi Aisha when she was having her period
and what Muhammad (pbuh) did during this time.
Sunaan
Abu Dawud: Book 1, Number 0270:
Narrated
Aisha, Ummul Mu'minin:
Umarah
ibn Ghurab said that his paternal aunt narrated to him that she
asked Aisha: What if one of us menstruates and she and her husband
have no bed except one? She replied: I relate to you what the
Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him) had done.
One
night he entered (upon me) while I was menstruating. He went to
the place of his prayer, that is, to the place of prayer reserved
(for this purpose) in his house. He did not return until I felt
asleep heavily, and he felt pain from cold. And he said: Come
near me. I said: I am menstruating. He said: Uncover your thighs.
I, therefore, uncovered both of my thighs. Then he put his cheek
and chest on my thighs and I lent upon he until he became warm
and slept.
There
can be many interpretations from the above story. To be fair,
I see this hadis
as telling a good side of Muhammad (pbuh) in the sense that he
did not treat menstruation as a disease to a woman, but rather
treated Aisha with utmost love and affection. This kind treatment
of Muhammad (pbuh) to a menstruating, young and vivacious Aisah
is definitely praiseworthy. I leave it to the readers to form
his/her own opinion about the implication of this incident as
reported by Ummul Mu’minin,
Bibi Aisha.
Here
is another hadis
from Sahi Bukhari
that tells us that Muhammad was very loving to his favourite wife,
Aisha during her period.
Mohammed used
to embrace Aisha during her period...3.33.247
Sahih
Bukhari:Volume 3, Book 33, Number 247:
Narrated 'Aisha:
The Prophet used to embrace
me during my menses. He also used to put his head out of the mosque
while he was in Itikaf, and I would wash it during my menses.
So,
what is halal for a man when his woman is having her period? Here
is the Islamic solution:
Sunaan
Abu Dawud: Book 1, Number 0212:
Narrated
Abdullah ibn Sa'd al-Ansari:
Abdullah
asked the Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him): What is lawful
for me to do with my wife when she is menstruating? He replied:
What is above the waist-wrapper is lawful for you.
The
narrator also mentioned (the lawfulness of) eating with a woman
in menstruation, and he transmitted the tradition in full.
If
one, accidentally, has sex with his menstruating wife (or a woman),
then here too, are the divine solutions.
Sunaan
Abu Dawud: Book 11, Number 2164:
Narrated
Abdullah ibn Abbas:
If
a man has sexual intercourse (with menstruating woman) during
her
bleeding,
he should give one dinar as sadaqah, and if he does so when bleeding
has stopped, he should give half a dinar as sadaqah.
If you have sexual
intercourse with your wife while she is menstruating, then you
must give one dinar or half a dinar in alms...1.0264
Sunaan
Abu Dawud: Book 1, Number 0264:
Narrated
Abdullah ibn Abbas:
The
Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) said about a person who had intercourse
with his wife while she was menstruating: He must give one dinar
or half a dinar in alms.
Here
are the recommendations of Sayyidina Ali and Prophet Muhammad
(pbuh) for a woman having heavy flow during her period. Why do
today’s women need to consult a gynaecologist during their
period problems when there is the handy solution from this in
ahadith? Please
do think about this Islamic answer for menstruation problems!
Sunaan
Abu Dawud: Book 1, Number 0302:
Narrated
Ali ibn AbuTalib:
The
woman who has a prolonged flow of blood should wash herself every
day when her menstrual period is over and take a woollen cloth
greased with fat or oil (to tie over the private parts).
Sahih
Muslim Book 3, Number 0647:
'A'isha
reported: A woman asked the Apostle of Allah (may peace be upon
him) how to wash herself after menstruation. She mentioned that
he taught her how to take bath and then told her to take a piece
of cotton with musk and purify herself. She said: How should I
purify myself with that? He (the Holy Prophet) said: Praise be
to Allah, purify yourself with it, and covered his face, Sufyan
b. 'Uyaina gave a demonstration by covering his face (as the Holy
Prophet had done). 'A'isha reported: I dragged her to my side
for I had understood what the Apostle of Allah (may peace be upon
him) intended and, therefore, said: Apply this cotton with musk
to the trace of blood. Ibn 'Umar in his hadith (has mentioned
the words of 'A'isha thus): Apply it to the marks of blood.
Sahih
Muslim Book 3, Number 0658:
On
the authority of 'A'isha: Umm Habiba asked the Messenger of Allah
(may peace be upon him) about the blood (which flows beyond the
period of menstruation). 'A'isha said: I saw her wash-tub full
of blood. The Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) said:
Remain away (from prayer) equal (to the length of time) that your
menses prevented you. After this (after the period of usual courses)
bathe yourself and offer prayer.
It
is quite interesting to note that Muhammad (pbuh) encouraged his
followers to have foreplay with their women before engaging in
actual coition. He chided them for jumping flat on women like
animals. We read from Ghazali’s book some interesting recommendation
of foreplay by Muhammad (ref.7. p.233):
‘Let
there be foreplay between them and before approaching each other
they should begin by exchanging pleasant words and kisses. The
Prophet said: “None of you should fall on top on his wife
the way the animals fall on each other, but let there be between
them a messenger.” They asked: “What is this messenger,
O Prophet of God?” He said: The kiss and the pleasant words.”
Then if he finishes first he should wait for his wife until she
has also finished.’
It
is definitely good to learn that Muhammad (pbuh) did recommend
‘Islamic’ foreplay for a mutually satisfying sexual
act.
Kissing and sucking during fasting
We
also learn from Bibi Aisha that the Prophet used to kiss her and
suck her tongue while he was fasting. How nice of him! Imagine
a fifty-two years (at least) old man kissing and sucking a nine
or ten years old girl!
Sunaan
Abu Dawud: Book 13, Number 2380:
Narrated
Aisha, Ummul Mu'minin:
The
Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) used to kiss her and suck her tongue
when he was fasting.
Please
do not fall into delusion that a young, married couple can engage
in kissing and sucking while they are fasting. This kind of foreplay
during fasting is applicable only for an old man, perhaps above
fifty years. This is the Islamic rule.
Taste
the honey and sweetness of intercourse
Hila marriage:
boon for a professional sex maniac!
In Islam, once
a husband divorces his wife irrevocably, or with three pronouncements
of divorce, that woman becomes totally ‘haram’
for him. He cannot
remarry her until she marries another man and the marriage is
consummated and that temporary husband divorces her. Only after
this second divorce takes place and the woman goes through her
normal idda (3 periods),
then only the former husband can re-marry her. Islamists often cite this
as a deterrent for the husband to think carefully before divorcing
his wife/s irrevocably. This is Hila
marriage and is sanctioned in Qur’an in verse 2:230
002.230
So if a husband divorces
his wife (irrevocably), He cannot, after that, re-marry her until
after she has married another husband and He has divorced her.
In that case there is no blame on either of them if they re-unite,
provided they feel that they can keep the limits ordained by Allah.
Such are the limits ordained by Allah, which He makes plain to
those who understand.
This absurd/bizarre
system opens the door for a clever ‘Casanova’ to have
unlimited sex for almost free. Once a woman has been divorced,
there will not be many ‘respectable’ and ‘good’
men to marry her just for a brief period, only to divorce her
after ‘enjoying’ her, to be re-married to her former
husband. However, many sex maniacs will have a great time acting
as professional bridegrooms and enjoying women for a short duration.
This is a great Islamic way to have unlimited free sex (almost
free, because the dower for such hapless women must be close to
zilch) by uttering a few holy words. It is stated that in some
Islamic paradises the divorce rate is high. Imagine what a great
time these ‘sex maniacs’ will have sleeping virtually
every night with different women?
Another strange
matter is that, this temporary marriage is not just for namesake;
the short-term husband must have sex with the woman for her to
be halal to her
former husband. This is the taste of sweetness of intercourse.
Here are a few ahadith
that are related to hila to entertain you.
Sunaan
Abu Dawud:Book 12, Number 2302:
Narrated Aisha,
Ummul Mu'minin:
The Apostle of
Allah (peace_be_upon_him) was asked about a man who divorced his
wife three times, and she married another who entered upon her,
but divorced her before having intercourse with her, whether she
was lawful for the former husband. She said: The Prophet (peace_be_upon_him)
replied: She is not lawful for the first (husband) until she tastes
the honey of the other husband and he tastes her honey.
Sahih
Muslim Book 008, Number 3354:
'A'isha (Allah
he pleased with her) reported: There came the wife of Rifa'a to
Allah's Apostle (may peace be upon him) and said: I was married
to Rifa'a but he divorced me, making my divorce irrevocable. Afterwards
I married Abd al-Rahman b. al-Zubair, but all he possesses is
like the fringe of a garment (i. e. he is sexually weak). Thereupon
Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) smiled, and said: Do
you wish to return to Rifa'a. (You) cannot (do it) until you have
tasted his sweetness and he ('Abd al-Rahman) has tasted your sweetness.
Abu Bakr was at that time near him (the Holy Prophet) and Khalid
(b. Sa'id) was at the door waiting for the permission to be granted
to him to enter), He (Khalid) said; Abu Bakr, do you hear what
she is saying loudly in the presence of Allah's Messenger (may
peace be upon him)?
Sahih
Muslim Book 008, Number 3357:
'A'isha (Allah
be pleased with her) reported that Allah's Messenger (may peace
be upon him) was asked about a woman whom a man married and then
divorced her, and then she married (another) person, and she was
divorced before sexual intercourse with her, whether it was lawful
for her first husband (to marry her in this state). He (the Holy
Prophet) said: No, until he has tasted her sweetness.
Malik’s
Muwatta Book 28, Number 28.7.17:
Yahya
related to me from Malik from al-Miswar ibn Rifaa al-Quradhi from
az-Zubayr ibn Abd ar-Rahman ibn az-Zubayr that Rifaa ibn Simwal
divorced his wife, Tamima bint Wahb, in the time of the Messenger
of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, three times.
Then she married Abd ar-Rahman ibn az-Zubayr and he turned from
her and could not consummate the marriage and so he parted from
her. Rifaa wanted to marry her again and it was mentioned to the
Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, and
he forbade him to marry her. He said, "She is not halal for
you until she has tasted the sweetness of intercourse."
No washing after urination/sex
In a previous
(part 1/6) section, we noted that ghusl
(bath) is obligatory after every act of sex and urination.
However, the following ahadith leaves you in complete
confusion. Even the Prophet (pbuh) himself slept after having
sex without going through the obligatory ritual of ghusl!
Sunaan
Abu Dawud: Book 1, Number 0042:
Narrated
Aisha, Ummul Mu'minin:
The
Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) urinated and Umar was standing behind
him with a jug of water. He said: What is this, Umar? He replied:
Water for you to perform ablution with. He said: I have not been
commanded to perform ablution every time I urinate. If I were
to do so, it would become a sunnah.
Sunaan
Abu Dawud: Book 1, Number 0228:
Narrated
Aisha, Ummul Mu'minin:
The
Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him) would sleep while he was
sexually defiled without touching water.
Sex and sexuality in Islam
Part 3 of
6
Coitus interruption (or spilling
ones seed!)
Spilling one’s
seed, and that also in one’s own clothes? Tauba!
Tauba! This is absolutely un-Islamic. After all, the
seed of a man is utterly holy and it cannot be discharged anywhere
else other than in its legitimate place, that is, inside a vagina.
How strange then, when we find that Prophet Muhammad (pbuh), himself
did spill his seed on his clothes and his beloved child-bride
Aisha used to wash it so that he could perform his regular prayers.
Unbelievable, you may say, but that is what did happen in reaslity!.
Let us now hear
from the very mouth of Bibi Aisha. Here is the hadith
from the most authentic source:
Sahih Bukhari Volume 1, Book 4, Number 231:
Narrated
Sulaiman bin Yasar:
I
asked 'Aisha about the clothes soiled with semen. She replied,
"I used to wash it off the clothes of Allah's Apostle and
he would go for the prayer while water spots were still visible.
"
Sunaan
Abu Dawud: Book 11, Number 2161:
Narrated
Aisha, Ummul Mu'minin:
I
and the Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him) used to lie in one
cloth at night while I was menstruating. If anything from me smeared
him, he washed the same place (that was smeared), and did not
wash beyond it. If anything from him smeared his clothe, he washed
the same place and did not wash beyond that, and prayed with it
(i.e. the clothe).
We may wonder
whether Muhammad (pbuh) used to practice coitus interruptus or
not or is that he became so much excited coming close to his child
bride that he had a premature ejaculation. If he did not deposit
his seed (read sperm) in the right place, then, could it be the
reason why Aisha never became pregnant?
How about the
foot soldiers of Muhammad (pbuh)? Those soldiers were, in fact
sexual predators. Whenever one of these soldiers got hold of an
infidel captive woman, he will immediately jump on her to have
sexual intercourse with her. He would not even hesitate to lay
himself upon a pregnant captive. It became such a serious problem
that Muhammad (pbuh) and Allah Himself had to interfere to impose
the condition that these soldiers could indulge in sex orgies
only after these women were clear of their periods. We find that
during the raid on Khaybar,
among other restrictions, Muhammad had to prohibit sexual intercourse
with pregnant captives by his followers (ref. 10, p.510). But
this restriction did not prevent the Jihadis
from enjoying the flesh of these hapless captives by indulging
in the spilling of their seeds outside the vagina of these women.
There are many ahadith that clearly demonstrate
the utter vulgarity and inhuman sexual indulgence of these foot
soldiers of Islam. Here I have selected a few of these utterly
crude ahdith for
you to pursue and enjoy the holy pornography, a la Islamic style.
(More on sex with captives and slaves will be found in a subsequent
part 5/6)
Sahih Bukhari: Volume 7, Book 62, Number 137:
Narrated
Abu Said Al-Khudri:
We
got female captives in the war booty and we used to do coitus
interruptus with them. So we asked Allah's Apostle about it and
he said, "Do you really do that?" repeating the question
thrice, "There is no soul that is destined to exist but will
come
into existence, till the Day of Resurrection."
Sahih Bukhari: Volume 7, Book 62, Number 135:
Narrated
Jabir:
We
used to practice coitus interruptus during the lifetime of Allah's
Apostle.
Sahih Bukhari: Volume
9, Book 93, Number 506:
Narrated
Abu Said Al-Khudri:
That
during the battle with Bani Al-Mustaliq they (Muslims) captured
some females and intended to have sexual relation with them without
impregnating them. So they asked the Prophet about coitus interrupt
us. The Prophet said, "It is better that you should not do
it, for Allah has written whom He is going to create till the
Day of Resurrection." Qaza'a said, "I heard Abu Sa'id
saying that the Prophet said, 'No soul is ordained to be created
but Allah will create it."
Sahih Bukhari: Volume 7, Book 62, Number 136:
Narrated
Jabir:
We used to practice coitus
interruptus while the Quran was being revealed. Jabir added: We
used to practice coitus interruptus during the lifetime of Allah's
Apostle while the Quran was being Revealed.
Does the above
hadis mean that the foot
soldiers of Islam were spilling their seed outside the interior
of their women victims when the Holy Qur’an was being revealed
to Muhammad? How fantastic; just imagine for a while, the recitation
of the Holy Scripture and the spilling of seed! What a great combination.
This may even beat the chanting of Kamasutra verses hands down!
Here are few more
of those gems of ahadith!
Sahih
Muslim Book 008, Number 3371:
Abu
Sirma said to Abu Sa'id al Khadri (Allah he pleased with him):
O Abu Sa'id, did you hear Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon
him) mentioning al-'azl? He said: Yes, and added: We went out
with Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) on the expedition
to the Bi'l-Mustaliq and took captive some excellent Arab women;
and we desired them, for we were suffering from the absence of
our wives, (but at the same time) we also desired ransom for them.
So we decided to have sexual intercourse with them but by observing
'azl (Withdrawing the male sexual organ before emission of semen
to avoid-conception). But we said: We are doing an act whereas
Allah's Messenger is amongst us; why not ask him? So we asked
Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him), and he said: It does
not matter if you do not do it, for every soul that is to be born
up to the Day of Resurrection will be born.
Sahih
Muslim Book 008, Number 3373:
Abu
Sa'id al-Khudri (Allah be pleased with him) reported: We took
women captives, and we wanted to do 'azl with them. We then asked
Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) about it, and he said
to us: Verily you do it, verily you do it, verily you do it, but
the soul which has to be born until the Day of judgment must be
born
It
is also interesting to note that everyone was in the business
of withdrawing their penis just before ejaculation
Malik's Muwatta Book 29, Number 29.32.96:
Yahya
related to me from Malik from Abu'n-Nadr, the mawla of Umar ibn
Ubaydullah from Amir ibn Sad ibn Abi Waqqas from his father that
he used to practise coitus interruptus.
Sunan Abu Dawud Book 11, Number 2166:
Narrated
AbuSa'id al-Khudri:
A man said: Apostle of Allah, I have a slave-girl and I withdraw
the penis from her (while having intercourse), and I dislike that
she becomes pregnant. I intend (by intercourse) what the men intend
by it. The Jews say that withdrawing the penis (azl) is burying
the living girls on a small scale. He (the Prophet) said: The
Jews told a lie. If Allah intends to create it, you cannot turn
it away.
The ahadith quoted above clearly proves that the
spilling ones seed was the main method to avoid unwanted pregnancy
amongst the captured concubines and slave-girls of early Muslims.
However, the following
hadis tells us that coitus
interruption is not permitted with ones own wife. The seed must
be sown inside the vagina of one’s own wife.
Without her permission, you cannot spill your seed outside
her. A woman’s vagina is indeed a sowing field!
Sahih Muslim
Book 008, Number 3365:
This
hadith has been reported on the authority of Jabir through another
chain of transmitters, but in the hadith transmitted on the authority
of Zuhri there is an addition (of these words):" If he likes
he may (have intercourse) being on the back or in front of her,
but it should be through one opening (vagina)."
Sahih Muslim Book 008, Number 3364:
Jabir
(b. Abdullah) (Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Jews
used to say that when one comes to one's wife through the vagina,
but being on her back, and she becomes pregnant, the child has
a squint. So the verse came down:" Your wives are your ti'Ith;
go then unto your tilth, as you may desire."
Malik’s
Muwatta Book 34, Number 4210:
Narrated
Abdullah ibn Mas'ud:
The
Prophet of Allah (peace_be_upon_him) disliked ten things: Yellow
colouring, meaning khaluq, dyeing grey hair, trailing the lower
garment, wearing a gold signet-ring, a woman decking herself before
people who are not within the prohibited degrees, throwing dice,
using spells except with the Mu'awwidhatan, wearing amulets, withdrawing
the penis before the semen is discharged, in the case of a woman
who is wife or not a wife, and having intercourse with a woman
who is suckling a child; but he did not declare them to be prohibited.
Sahih
Muslim Book 008, Number 3377:
Abu
Sa'id al-Khudri (Allah be pleased with him) reported that mention
was made of 'azl in the presence of Allah's Apostle (may peace
be upon him) whereupon he said: Why do you practise it? They said:
There is a man whose wife has to suckle the child, and if that
person has a sexual intercourse with her (she may conceive) which
he does not like, and there is another person who has a slave-girl
and he has a sexual intercourse with her, but he does not like
her to have conception so that she may not become Umm Walad, whereupon
he (the Holy Prophet) said: There is no harm if you do not do
that, for that (the birth of the child) is something pre- ordained.
Ibn 'Aun said: I made a mention of this hadith to Hasan, and he
said: By Allah, (it seems) as if there is upbraiding in it (for
'azl).
Group sex or sex orgies? Oh,
My!
In
stag movies we often watch one man copulating with many women
(or vice versa) at the same time or at short intervals. This is
one of the greatest attractions of these ‘smut,’ that
is, sex orgies either in groups or on one to one basis but with
multiple partners. This is a very popular feature in pornographic
movies, because almost all of us will never experience such sexual
ecstasies, no matter how much we desire. Therefore, we are greatly
attracted to satisfy our secret fantasies through watching those
incredible feats. How we wished we could be the actors! Did this
thought ever cross the mind of our Prophet? Tauba! Tauba! Nauzubillah!
This is outrageously blasphemous, a garden variety Islamists will
surely say. Now, please read the following ahadith
and imagine for yourself the sex orgy, holy style. Imagine that
you have many wives, between nine to twenty of them. Now imagine
further that your most favourite wife decorates you to have sex
with other women. If this is not sex orgy, then I wonder what
is it? Please remember that during this orgy time, Muhammad (pbuh)
had at least nine wives at his harem
Sahih
Bukhari: Volume 1, Book 5, Number 270:
Narrated
Muhammad bin Al-Muntathir:
on
the authority of his father that he had asked 'Aisha about the
saying of Ibn 'Umar(i.e. he did not like to be a Muhrim while
the smell of scent was still coming from his body). 'Aisha said,
"I scented Allah's Apostle and he went round (had sexual
intercourse with) all his wives, and in the morning he was Muhrim
(after taking a bath)."
Sahih
Muslim Book 008, Number 3445:
Abu
Bakr b. 'Abd al-Rahman reported that when Allah's Messenger (may
peace be upon him) married Umm Salama and he visited her, and
when he intended to come out, she caught hold of his cloth. Whereupon
Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) said: If you so desire,
I can extend the time (of my stay) with you, but then I shall
have to calculate the time (that I stay with you and shall have
to spend the same time with other wives). For the virgin woman,
(her husband has to stay with her) for a week, and for the woman
previously married it is three days.
That, having sex
orgy was a divine sanction, can be verified from the writings
of Imam Ghazali. On the matter of having sex with multiple partners,
he writes (ref.7, p.368):
….it has
been narrated in a gharib Tradition that the
messenger of God said, “I have complained to Gabriel that
I would like more strength when having intercourse with my wives,
and he instructed me to eat harisa, “ then you should know
that he had nine wives, and he was obliged to satisfy them all,
and that no one was permitted to marry them after his death, or
even if he divorced them; his request for strength was therefore
for this, and not for enjoyment.
I would like to
end this section with this ‘extraordinary’ hadis;
just imagine how much ‘seed’ was used to be spilled
in a single night!!
Sahih
Bukhari:Volume 7, Book 62, Number 6:
Narrated
Anas:
The
Prophet I used to go round (have sexual relations with) all his
wives in one night, and he had nine wives.
Women’s semen is yellow?
In
youthful days most men and women have dreams of sex. The men have
semen discharge (just like a normal ejaculation) that is termed
nocturnal emission. Women too, experience sexual orgasm in dreams
but there is no seminal discharge from her vagina as they do not
produce any sperm. Even Muhammad’s favourite wife, Aisha
knew this fact, for, she herself was a woman. However, Muhammad
(pbuh) was totally unaware of this scientific truth and thought
that women, too, have nocturnal discharges when they experience
sexual orgasms in their dreams. He could have probably seen some
yellow stain on women’s clothing after her period was over
and wrongfully thought that to be her sperm. When Aisha wanted
to correct him, he simply admonished Aisha and forced his erroneous
belief on her. If any woman were to read these ahadith
she will simply wonder whether there is anything wrong with her
genitalis or not!
Sahih Muslim Book 3, Number 0608:
Anas
b. Malik reported that Umm Sulaim narrated it that she asked the
Apostle of Allah (may peace be upon him) about a woman who sees
in a dream what a man sees (sexual dream). The Messenger of Allah
(may peace be upon bi m) said: In case a woman sees that, she
must take a bath. Umm Sulaim said: I was bashful on account of
that and said: Does it happen ? Upon this the Apostle of Allah
(may peace be upon him) said: Yes (it does happen), otherwise
how can (a child) resemble her ? Man's discharge (i.e. sperm)
is thick and white and the discharge of woman is thin and yellow;
so the resemblance comes from the one whose genes prevail or dominate.
Sahih
Muslim Book 3, Number 0610:
Umm
Salama reported: Umm Sulaim went to the Apostle of Allah (may
peace be upon him) and said: Apostle of Allah, Allah is not ashamed
of the truth. Is bathing necessary for a woman when she has a
sexual dream? Upon this the Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon
him) said: Yes, when she sees the liquid (vaginal secretion).
Umm Salama said : Messenger of Allah, does a woman have sexual
dream ? He (the Holy Prophet) said: Let your hand be covered with
dust, in what way does her child resemble her ?
Backside/anal sex
I
would not hide the fact that one of my favourite pastimes is to
read ahadith. I love to read and
re-read hadis—all of them.
The more I read ahadith the more I understand
Islam and its Prophet, Muhammad (pbuh).To my mind, ahadith
contain the true picture of a good and devout Muslim. When I started
reading ahadith, I expected to find
only the religious/holy/spiritual/jihadi
matters. But I was dumbfounded when I discovered such marvellous
erotic contents in these core scriptures of Islam. It will not
be wrong to comment that many ahadith
can easily pass as manuals of sexual actions, and most importantly,
details on dos and don’ts in sex. Some ahadith
can even beat the world’s first pornography book, Kamasutra,
to say the least. Many hadith
can easily pass up as sort of ‘Sahi Pornography,’
a la Bedouin or even better, the Islamic style. Here, I am citing
only a few samples. Please spend a few years reading all the six
Sahi ahadith. I
am sure you will not regret at what you may discover.
Ahadith tells
us a great deal about the sexual practices of the Arab Bedouins
of those days. We find that the style of copulation between various
tribes varied a lot. The manner by which a Jewish man used to
have sex with his woman was distinctly different from his counterpart
of the Bedouins and also with the city and rural folks. We find
that the desert Bedouins were more innovative in their sex positions,
styles, etc. The style varied even among the ansars,
muhajirins and other
Arabs. The Jews were more accustomed to the missionary position
while the muhajirins (Meccan Arabs
who migrated to Medina) used to have sex with their wives in various
positions, the most favourite being the backside style. When these
muhajirs started
this style with the ansari
women, they (the women) were quite displeased and annoyed with
them because many of these ruffian muhajirs
did not even hesitate to resort to anal sex, because those muhajirs were sex starved as most of them came
with their prophet without women and were hungry for sex like
wolves. Thus, whenever they had the chance of sleeping with any
woman, they would simply ravish her and do despicable sexual acts
with them. Soon,
this matter reached the ear of Muhammad through many ansari women. Without much
delay, a divine decree came down from Allah forbidding those Meccan
hungry wolves from do |